Since I’m an original bunker punk member, I have to answer a few questions that were given to me. Here goes:
1. What is your most prized possession?
As cliché as it sounds, it will have to be my kids. If you have read my previous blog, you know that I struggle with infertility and I lost a baby so I don’t take them for granted, they are my most prized possession!
2. How do you unwind after a long day?
For me, I love to be on social media, sitting in my favorite spot on the couch with my feet up. I have no energy for anything else. (And no, this isn’t my living room, although I wish it was!)
3. What is the one song that has followed you throughout your whole life?
Well, since I mostly listen to Jewish music, it is a song which has Jiddish lyrics and has always given me the chills while listening to it. Here is the youtube link where someone has tried to translate it in English. http://youtu.be/vfRMJWia0_I
4. If you could give one piece of advice to new bloggers in your field, what would it be?
Since I’m so new, I’ll go read all the advice others have given!
Now that you’re famous, we need a quote from you.
BE YOURSELF, EVERYONE ELSE IS TAKEN (oh, it has to be an original quote? I don’t have one.)
Since I’m on Facebook, I have met many awesome people. A group of them, who have pushed and inspired me to start writing, have created their very own submissions website called the original bunker punks. And I’m honored to have my very first article published there. May it be the start of a writing career 😉
It’s a story about a sad part of my life and I would like to share it with you. Please read and as usual, don’t forget to leave feedback!
PREVIEW: It has always been my dream to be a mother of twins. It always made me happy when I passed a mother with a twin carriage on the street. I am not sure why I wanted this so much. Perhaps my desire stemmed from my husband’s extraordinarily close identical twin brothers, I wanted this for my children? I didn’t have that closeness with my siblings..
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In an hour, the time of Sabbath is approaching. This week, I’m awaiting it with a heavy heart. As of now, 5 of my people, Jewish mothers and children are being held hostage in Paris in a Jewish grocery store. My hope is that this will all be over by the time I go offline so I won’t have to spend the next 24 hours with my heart in my throat, wondering how all this will end. When such things happen in our community, there isn’t one Jew who isn’t affected by it. I don’t know them but they’re my people. I’m as heartbroken as if it would have been my family. That’s the beautiful part of our connection.
Jews all over the world are praying as one that they will all be released safely and return to their families. Those of you that pray, please pray that this won’t end in bloodshed.
Humanity as we know it, is going down the drain. The world has become insane. I’m afraid. I’m afraid of the future, I’m afraid for my children and the way the world will be when they grow up.
Please hug your children for me and be kind to one another ❤
(I’m not editing this because I just needed to get this off my chest so sorry for the rambling)
“Who am I” is at best a very tough question to answer. I am still figuring that out! So for now, I’ll be telling you a bit about myself. My (pen) name is Rebecca Beck and I’m 36 years old. I live in the UK with my husband of 18 years and 2 beautiful children, one on the spectrum.
I don’t consider myself a writer at all. I had some great conversations with a Facebook friend and he kept telling me to start a blog as people would be very interested in what I had to say. Well, this guy is known to be the most supportive guy on FB so I didn’t take him too seriously. I mean, he probably says that to everyone 😉
After a while, I decided to take on the challenge. As for the name, I knew my being orthodox Jewish would somehow be featured on here so I decided to use the name Orthodox. For various reasons sunflower is my flower and I thought that makes a nice name so that’s how my blog name was born.
I didn’t yet know what my blog would be about but I did know what my first post would be. That was a very personal letter that had to be written (password protected by now to protect it from unwelcome eyes). I got great feedback on it and that encouraged me to write some more.
I decided I wanted to let people feel the peace that is my sabbath. After that piece was well received too, I started thinking that maybe that’s the direction I’m meant to go in. To open a window into our religion. Not the ugly side, that has and is sadly being shown all the time in the sensationalist media. Here you will find the beauty that is in orthodoxy. To highlight our beautiful traditions. To show you that beneath it all, we are all human beings, craving the same thing every human craves. Acceptance.
That is my mission.
I am an orthodox Jewish woman and it’s something I’m proud of. I love my religion with all its goodness and flaws. There were many times during my challenges that my faith was the only thing that kept me from falling apart. I want to talk about something more uncomfortable though. I want to tell you how it feels to be a religious Jew in a world where antisemitism is rampant, shown openly or otherwise. I also want to ask some difficult questions.
I know I may seem different to you, strange even. We look different, we keep mostly to ourselves and basically live in our own little bubble. I understand you don’t “get” us. But I don’t understand why we deserve the hatred directed at us.
Now, before you start to object and say that no one hates us, I will explain to you how I feel in the country I live in. I don’t always feel safe. I always feel the need to go with another person when I venture in unfamiliar places. And while some of it *may* be in my head, I cannot count how many times I had dirty stares directed at me. Or how many times “dirty Jew” was muttered under someone’s breath when I passed by.
I’m trying to understand why I am “dirty”. I do shower every day so it cannot be that. I am a person just like you. A person with feelings, thoughts, desires and fears like any other human being. I am a good mother to my children. I try to be a good person but I have my flaws just like everyone else.
Why is my religion held against me? Why is every story happening in my ultra religious circles being spread out for all to see to criticize and to mock? Such stories happen everywhere.
Even if you don’t understand all of our rituals or they don’t make sense to you is no reason to make us feel less than. I know there are a lot of decent people out there that respect everyone regardless of religion, color or race. But that still doesn’t take away the fact that we are feeling the hate left and right. it’s not that hard to smile at every person you see, even if they are different. I don’t ask for much. I just want to be able to feel as safe as any other person out there. Not to feel scared that I, as a visibly orthodox Jewish woman, will be attacked verbally or looked at with disdain. I don’t deserve that. We all don’t deserve that.
These are some hard questions which will probably be tough to hear. But the biggest question of all is: why is everyone afraid of “different”? We are, after all, very much the same.
It’s Friday morning. My favorite day of the week is coming soon. Friday afternoon is hectic,with all the last minute preparations going on. Food warmed up? Check. Kids all showered and washed their hair? Check. Table set for Friday night dinner? Check. Candles prepared? Check.
The time for lighting the Sabbath candles is approaching. As I light the candles, peace descends upon the house like a sweet, soft blanket. All mundane matters are put aside for 24 hours. Electronics and gadgets are put away, not to be seen until Saturday night after sundown. It’s my time to focus on the things that really matter, like family, without the distraction of cell phones, computers or tablets. When my daughter talks to me, I actually listen with attention.
After candle lighting, I take the time to sit on the couch with my daughter and we talk about what she learned in school that week. And when she shows me her artwork I actually look at it and not pretend to like it so I could get back to my screen. I treasure that time with her. Not much later the men come home and we eat the one and only dinner together as a family with no distractions. It’s beautiful. The men sing and the food is delicious. It’s time to find out what the kids are thinking and feeling. There are no phones ringing, no social media to escape to, just being in the moment with the people you love.
After the meal, I actually have time to read real magazines, not virtual ones. I love the feel of paper but sadly, the lure of the virtual world takes me away from the pleasure of old fashioned reading.
The next day is more of the same. I can sleep in a little, then we join my family for the next meal. We sit together instead of chatting on Whatsapp. My children get to spend time with the grandparents and can update them about their week.
The afternoon is spend napping and looking at old family albums and just being together. This bonding time keeps us strong from week to week. As sundown approaches, I get a little sad. I love my sabbath. I know I’m way too addicted to technology and I’m sure my children suffer as a result. But I await my little peace of weekly heaven and know that this is what keeps the fabric of our family life together. I would not give this up for the world. I’m not sure I would be able to do this voluntarily if my religion didn’t (demand) it because of my strong dependence on electronics but since I got this gift of the day of rest, I see the beauty in it and wish for everyone to experience this just once. The disconnect is actually a way of connecting to the real thing. It’s priceless and I’m grateful for it.